tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128356272633778761.post2606230333391137861..comments2023-06-19T09:33:49.682-05:00Comments on Someone being me: The woman behind the mask..Someone Being Mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08984828094257765105noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128356272633778761.post-11427030102712340282008-07-14T12:07:00.000-05:002008-07-14T12:07:00.000-05:00Very well said. I think that as an adult we need t...Very well said. I think that as an adult we need to not tell kids certain things we did. Only becasue knowing how I was as a teen they will just use it against us and throw it right back inour face. So that's my input.Marmarbughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08949355629133829262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128356272633778761.post-48555785731888668672008-07-13T23:05:00.000-05:002008-07-13T23:05:00.000-05:00let me know when that line widens; fine lines make...let me know when that line widens; fine lines make me nervous!<BR/><BR/>you will be fab.u.lous!<BR/><BR/>special thoughts for another!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04051175511763977534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128356272633778761.post-30752430121521722822008-07-13T13:28:00.000-05:002008-07-13T13:28:00.000-05:00My mom worked, and I still saw her as a boring old...My mom worked, and I still saw her as a boring old fuddy-duddy/housewife type---when I bothered to see her as anything other than My Mom (I really didn't pay much attention to what she was Really Like as a Person). I think in general, people see OTHER PEOPLE'S parents as the cool ones. Probably your kids' friends will think you are TEH AWESOME.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128356272633778761.post-57427902057923438172008-07-11T11:40:00.000-05:002008-07-11T11:40:00.000-05:00Great thinking! But I don't think it's a fine lin...Great thinking! But I don't think it's a fine line. I think you should always be brutally honest about your mistakes and how they made you feel. My motto is always thinking long term. You raise your kids NOW how you want them to be at 20. Don't like whininess? Nip it. Don't want them to be sensitive? Nip it. If you allow behaviors now such as rebelliousness, regardless of what others think, it doesn't go away with time. It will continue into the teenage years. Your best course of action is to be open, honest and make sure your little one knows that you should never behave that way to cover up problems.<BR/><BR/>My mother recently told me about all of her adventures after she divorced my father. Waking up with men she didn't remember. Drinking. Drugs. She had preached to me and preached to me about how wrong those things were. To this day I've never touched drugs and had only a few sips of alcohol in college. I don't regret that I didn't try those things but boy, I looked at her like a huge hypocrite. If I had known those things in high school, things would have been MUCH different.<BR/><BR/>Hubby's mother is the exact opposite of my mother. Always talking to them, telling them about how they should behave, what's right, etc. All FOUR of her kids are the picture of perfection, dedicated, people that I wish I could be more like. My MIL drank, did drugs, got pregnant out of wedlock (who she's about to celebrate 30 years with in Oct!), and while I'm the one who convinced hubby to sleep with me before marriage, he probably wouldn't have if I hadn't been so persistent. <BR/><BR/>In essence, YOU control it all. And you can do it and do it right. Just follow your gut, even if your brain tells you it's wrong. Sometimes what's best isn't what's easiest.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12140468214545352325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128356272633778761.post-79959412513018053632008-07-11T11:09:00.000-05:002008-07-11T11:09:00.000-05:00Very well said. I think you have to know that no m...Very well said. <BR/><BR/>I think you have to know that no matter what path you choose---oversharing or keeping mum---that your kids are going to make some colossal mistakes. The same ones we made. Hindsight is what it is and I wish I could go back and make far fewer mistakes and experience far fewer heartbreaks and I even regret a thing or two (or 85) but it's my road, my path, my journey, and the one thing I'll never do is try to pretend it's not. <BR/><BR/>My mother was loving but she turned her back to a lot of what I did out of the need to protect herself from the pain. And I understand that. I was doing a lot wrong. But that's one thing I won't do. Tell me you got high, you failed out of Chemistry, you lost your virginity far too young, just don't ever forget that I'm looking AT you and I'm walking beside you. You may keep me at arm's length when you're royally screwing up, but I'm right here all the same. <BR/><BR/>And the fact that you're even thinking of this makes you a beautiful mother, you should know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128356272633778761.post-23082953935708456902008-07-11T09:54:00.000-05:002008-07-11T09:54:00.000-05:00Well said. Hopefully your children will see you fo...Well said. Hopefully your children will see you for the awesome person that you are! :-)Haleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05163097493450864797noreply@blogger.com